Sometimes people ask me why I post daily pics of myself and then follow it up with comments about being ‘vain’
Ummm excuse me while I put their manners back in.
Right now that’s sorted, let me just say I don’t have a vain bone in my body. The definition of vain is having a high opinion of oneself, self obsessed, egotistical, arrogant, narcissistic, boastful…and the list goes on.
Ummm…I’m none of that.What I am is confident but I wasn’t always this way.
No siree I was self conscious and always in search of acceptance. You see I was raised in a household where I was told I wasn’t worthy, that life would have been better if I was a boy and I didn’t receive much girly guidance. When you are put down enough you start to believe it.
Now don’t cry me a river because I’m a strong chicky who has worked through a pile of shit which is why I can stand before you every day and put my picture out there into the land of the Internet.
Through necessity I always just gave things a go in life.
I never believed I couldn’t do anything but at the first sign of criticism I would question myself and gave up easily…sometimes.
As I’ve grown I’m now solid in my inner confidence and strongly hold a belief that no one is better than anyone else. I don’t care who you are, how pretty you are, how polished you are, how much money you earn… You wake with morning mouth and wipe your arse the same as me. What you do after that is only down to knowledge and skills collected over the years.
Knowledge is power…heard that one before? Yeah, it’s true and when it comes to daily dressing the more little tips ‘n tricks you pick up the more confident at dressing you will become.
Now that confidence might translate into an inner confidence, or it may be just enough to allow you to feel ‘together’. Truthfully inner confidence is part of a package but the more ‘crumbs of confidence’ you pick up the closer you will come to being the whole cookie.
I’m not quite the whole cookie but when it comes to body image and dressing I’m all good.
I’m open to learning, I’m happy to share my knowledge and having my photograph taken doesn’t bother me one little bit. That’s why I can stand on my front verandah every morning and snap off a few photos…not because I’m vain but because I’m confident. I post those photos because I want to inspire you all, I want you to feel that confidence too.
I’m a Mumma from the burbs, nothing extra special but if I can get you to think differently about clothes and body image, learn to accept yourself a little more then I’m a happy Mumma from the burbs. So I’m going to share tips to help you along, 5 things that you can implement that I hope will help you become a whole cookie.
Ok let’s start…
1. Add an accessory to your outfit. Rise above your fears and preconceived ideas and try something new and if you don’t know how to wear it just ask or Google a utube clip.
2. Grab a neutral lipstick and wear it daily, of course a pop of colour is always a good idea but it’s baby steps right. Start with a neutral and get used to wearing something on your lips. Oh and prepare your lips, dry brush them in the morning and moisturise them at night.
3. Moisturise your body daily…your ‘whole’ body. Of course it’s going to give you supple skin which will look great but moisturising your body will also force you to ‘touch’ and ‘look’ at your body. For some ladies this is difficult, when I moisturise I try to be present with each body part and give thanks for what it can do instead of finding things to dislike. It’s a good way to start looking at your body differently.
4. Drink some water. Sounds simple but really how many glasses of water do you drink each day? It’s vital for a clear head, clear eyes and supple skin. When I drink enough water my body lets go of excess fluid, my eyes are brighter, my skin is plumper and I have loads more energy.
5. Say something nice! Like breeds like, so start by saying something nice to someone…give a compliment or notice when someone has done a good job. It’s a simple act that can breed like wildfire…and beautiful words make for a beautiful face.
It’s not rocket science but sometimes we all need a little reminder (shove) to get going and implement change.
How’s your confidence? Got any tips for building confidence?