Have you spent too many summers sitting on the sidelines? Missing out on kicking the ball, riding the bike, getting in the picture or enjoying a swim? Ok babes, let’s end that shit now and make this summer your best ever, it’s your time to get off the sidelines and start enjoying life to the fullest.
You cannot live a positive life with a negative mind. Negative thoughts are like thunderclouds that perpetually hang over your head raining on your parade…on your life. So let’s be a unicorn and bring the rainbow…feel the rainbow (skittles anyone?)
It really doesn’t matter what our size, shape or age is, having a fabulous life is there for the taking and we don’t need the ‘perfect body’ to enjoy it. What is a perfect body anyway? Don’t answer that!
Actually I WILL answer that, our bodies are the vehicles to living a full and wonderful life so the way I see it the ‘perfect body’ is one that houses a full heart and gets you through each and every day.
I get it that some people might not feel body confident in summer, there’s sooo much skin baring and if your body confidence is a little on the low side summer can be challenging. So how can you achieve amazing body confidence in summer? Read on, I’ve gotchya babes.
CARE LESS GET CONFIDENCE
One thing I’ve learned over the years is that people really aren’t looking at you as much as you think. Another thing I’ve learned is ‘what others think of me is none of my business’. Once I realised this I could walk the beach in my cossie knowing no one was actually judging me, it freed me up to just enjoy swimming with my family. Making memories and having a fabulous summer experience is what it’s all about.
This is me caring less…or maybe the cold water hit my vajay 🙂
CHANGE YOUR THINKING
I fully believe that what our mind thinks our body feels, so I don’t ever think negative thoughts about my body…ever! Sure there have been long decades where I did think and say horrible things about my body, this changed when cancer threatened my body and my life. These days I show my body gratitude for what it can do, I focus less on what it can’t do and you know what…my body confidence soared.
Cut yourself a break and stop being so tough on yourself, try changing the soundtrack in your head and give thanks for what your body does each and every day. I could hate on my body for bringing cancer and taking my tits but hey…these new ones aint so bad. Perspective babes.
FUEL YOUR BODY
When I eat poorly I feel tired and lethargic, add some high summer temperatures into the mix and I have the perfect storm for feeling crappy. Look, we all know what we should be doing but if you are in struggletown and stuck in an unhealthy diet rut it might be time to visit your G.P. or enlist the help of a dietician.
Exercise can feel like a dirty word but tailor your exercise to your lifestyle and your abilities and let the happy endorphins make you…happy! During the tough times forget the huffy puffy exercise and instead do something that brings joy.
BALANCE
It’s not just our bodies that require a workout, our minds do too. I get it, you’re exhausted I hear ya sista because some days I am too!
For good life balance, oh fuck ‘balance’…let’s call it work life ‘integration’ because we all know ‘balance’ is bullshit.
OK, for ‘work life integration’ that is kind to your body and mind spend time with family and friends, schedule in some daily exercise, have a hobby, work to live and not live to work and remember not to over commit, learn to say ‘no’ if your commitments feel overwhelming. You can’t give from an empty cup so schedule in some fun, ok?
GET IN THE COSSIE WITH CONFIDENCE
Wanna know what the perfect swimsuit body is? It’s the one that’s in the cossie. If you have a body then find a cossie that fits your style, suits your style personality and get your body in it, simple.
If you’re finding it a challenge to find the perfect cossie for you then enlist some help, ask a friend, follow a style blogger with a similar style/body shape to you or hire a stylist, don’t lose faith as there’s a cossie that’s perfect for you.
Yup…this is me, dimples and all. I am cutting myself some slack because I am doing alright for all that my 47 years have seen and experienced.
One of my fave cossie brands is Curvy Swimwear, I have been wearing them since I started Styling Curvy four and a half years ago and they never let me down. Sure there are certain styles I steer clear of (because I know my body) and not all prints are for me but the range has something for everyone. The fabrics are luxe and hard wearing and the size range goes from 10-30…uh huh good right.
If you need help choosing a swimsuit then get in touch with Marcia and the team at Curvy Swimwear because they are super helpful and friendly. Me, I am loving this crane bird zip up one piece with flutter sleeves.
That’s it from me gorgeous ones. I really do hope you get into the cossie and back into life this coming summer. I mean this grin is pure joy from being in the water and giving less fucks. I am living my sweet life for me.
Til next time,
Jen x
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Jen your words are beautiful and so very very true, like they say we only get one life so live it to the bloody fullest. I’ve told a couple of friends about you and that they should follow you and read your articles as they need to live.
Have a beautiful Monday
Donna 🦋
OMFG i needed this talking to right now today. Thanks Jen for honesty and straight the the bloody point.. love ya. Now i need to love ME…..
Cheers
OMFG i needed this talking to right now today. Thanks Jen for honesty and straight to the the bloody point.. love ya. Now i need to love ME…..
Cheers
You are refreshing and so real. Thank you. You always bring a smile to my face and I find my self nodding in agreement with you. I live in the coast and can’t tell you the last time I wore my swimmers and actually went to the beach. After reading this , “the times they are a changing”
Love your cozzi where did you get it?
Hi Jen! Thanks for this post and for sharing that gorgeous suit!!!
May I please ask what your bikini line tips are for summer??? I always get ingrowns no matter if I shave or wax. I was thinking of maybe trying a bikini trimmer but I really need someone to recommend one.
Thanks, I love ya work!!
WOW Jen, loved the article, loved your words, you are such an inspiration, thank you no wonder we all love you & yes I bought a new cossie at the end of last year & I will be down the beach when the weather permits, once again thank you xxx
I love exercising in the pool. It took me ages to realise no one is stopping and looking at me! Sure I’m still self conscious but I don’t let it hold me back any more. Love your article Jen, sound words for everyone!
🙌🏻 Jen you do now and will forever hold a special place in your followers hearts !! You are really Courageous, Encouraging, Inspirational, Grounding, Appreciative, Respectful, Queen of the home and your family and best of all a legend for us all 💖💖💖💖 thank you ☺️
All true 🥰🥰need to follow your tips.