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DON’T BE A MOLL, ok

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I love my body! I truly do. I didn’t always truly, madly deeply have self-love and body confidence but these days I have it in bucket loads, with some to spare.

Yesterday I had some fillers and anti-wrinkle jabs in my face and while most applauded a few did not. In fact they were down right mean molls about it, so let’s set the record straight.

I love my body more than you can know.

I loved my body when it was broken. I loved it when my guts and vag were cut open to deliver two amazing sons. I even loved it when the surgeons cut my tits off, in fact I loved it through that trauma. I loved it when doctors injected life-saving chemo into my veins. I have loved my body through skin searing radiotherapy and ten surgeries.

I have loved this body through weight gain, pregnancy, sexual abuse and more.

I love my body and yet still I like to alter and pretty it up a little.

I wear makeup, tan my skin, paint my nails, shave my legs, colour my hair, tint my brows, trim my toe nails, clean my teeth, pluck the hairs from my chin, wear earrings, use moisturiser, skin care and even wear clothes.

I love my body even though I asked the doctors to carve me up and rebuild my tits…made from my back. I let them inject me, cut me, stitch me, drain me and do things you could never imagine. I then had implants inserted and nipples tattooed.

Even after this I still love me and my body. In fact all of that made me love it more.

Do what makes you happy.

Yesterday I had some stuff jabbed in my face, my thin lips look fuller…I like it. One email accused me of not caring for my body because I injected stuff that wasn’t natural into it. Ummmm, I HAD FREAKIN CHEMO. I eat packaged food, wear makeup, colour my hair (see above list)…heck, I even eat white bread and bloody love it!. We all do shit every day that isn’t natural or healthy.

I did not do any of the above for anyone other than ME because what others think of me is none of my business. I did it all because I just bloody wanted to. I did it because of curiosity, because I can, because I like it.

We don’t have to justify our choices to anyone, and neither should we be a judgey moll who judge other women. Don’t ever let anyone make you feel ‘less than’ because of your choices made for YOUR body.

Just remember that your boundary may be someone else’s half-way mark, and that’s ok. I like me, I love me and I will always have fun with prettying up me.

Til next time

Jen x

Comments

    • Amen to everything you said Jen, you are a bloody inspiration to everyone that has gone through bad experiences in their life, and an inspiration to all women that beat themselves up every goddam day because they don’t feel beautiful enough or skinny enough….stuff the moles, I say keep doing what you are doing sister, there needs to be more love in this world, and you my love, are handing out bucket loads ??

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  2. I tell you Jen some people have no fricken idea. I think jealousy is a curse. I too love my body cause of you I rock clothes and styles I never thought of wearing. I say good on you I’d love to do more beauty things but money doesn’t allow. Love you my friend xo

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  6. It always amazes me that some people feel it’s their right to enforce their opinions on to others! It’s my life and body if I want to change it I will! These very opinionated people are very good at giving their view but don’t like it when others voice theirs ❤️

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  10. Hi Jen. I’ve just read this and wow what strength you have.
    I am a big girl ( 60 now) and have faced criticism about my size most of my life. I applaud your sense of self.
    My 19 year old daughter is fighting cancer at the moment and she too is being injected with all of those necessary drugs; she has lost her hair but continues to smile ( most of the time) . She’s a beautiful and amazing curvy girl .
    I’m going to show her your blog this morning as I spend another day and night at the hospital with her. Thank you for your amazing attitude and fabulous fashion!
    We think you’re gorgeous!

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  12. Some people are just plain bitches, bet these ladies were the bullies at school!!!!
    You go Jen
    Keep inspiring your Curvy Girls. X

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  13. I say do what makes you happy love! I had my lips injected this year for the first time and frigging love it. Getting a touch up in January. I’m also going to have some jabs in my forehead too. I’ve just lost 40kg….dang .. my face has aged but I’m so much healthier…just want to look fresher.

    Haters are going to hate. Stuff em’ If you don’t have something nice to say then don’t say anything. Common courtesy people. You rock Jen! Thanks for sharing your journey and being so honest with us

    xx

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  15. Love your work Jen! Their opinion is about them and they need to keep it to themselves. If I just had a spare $500….

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  16. How good and how true is this. Well said Jen, the only thing holding me back is money at this stage . Nothing wrong with wanting to look good ?

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  18. Women need to support and encourage each other much more than is happening today. Vulgar attacking is so wounding and damaging to self esteem which lots of women struggle with already. I wouldnt do what you did Jenni, but that is me the little scaredy cat. Instead I think of you as brave and courageous wanting to help others by your experiences in life. I think women who have gone through what you have been through are deserving of so much more than attacking. If there is nothing positive for people to say, they need to scroll right on by and not deliberately stomp over others feelings and undermine confidence.

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  21. I can not believe people are giving you a hard time fuck’em ? you are awesome you inspire people to live their best life not yours. Up yours moles ??????

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  22. Look I usually don’t use language in public.. BUt this has made me Fucking Furious!!!! How fucking DARE anyone make Judgement on what one or any individual does to their OWN BODIES!! What Business is it of yours? Jenni and anyone of us will and can do whatever we want!!!!
    If you don’t like it or want to hear about it or see the posts…. THEN LEAVE THE WONDERFUL and AMAZING COMMUNITY that Jenni has ???
    Do you not know what she has been through and she shares it all with us.. Jenni gives to this Community and asks for nothing!! BUT she DOES DESERVE RESPECT ✊?Wake Up and Grow Up and don’t be SO JUDGEMENTAL….
    Jenn YOU GO GIRL ????

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  23. Well said Jen.” If you don’t have anything nice to say.. then shut the f..k up” or something like that , my mum would say.

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  24. Nicely said Jen. If it makes you happy go for it! I myself probably wouldn’t get it done, nEvertheless, I was really surprised at the difference it made and who knows, I may very well get it done in the future – never say never! Jenni, I cannot believe all the stuff you’ve been through, your positive attitude is remarkable – do what the fuck you want to your body- it is after all YOUR body. xxx

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  26. Look I’ve said a lot here.. but like others because of you Jenn I have more confidence and I am loving myself more and more each day.. I will never ever forget the day that you said that you wake up on your birthday and enjoy the fact that you are here.. never again will I whinge about being 60 or any age.. I wear my clothes and makeup with confidence and that’s a True Gift that you taught me.. thanks ??

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  27. I have a saying I always use’ Don’t let anyone dull your sparkle!’. Keep being who you are and I thank you for sharing all your experiences.

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  28. You are amazing strong courageous and beautiful. This post is the perfect reply. “You can always tell who the strong women are. They’re the ones building each other up instead of tearing each other down”

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  29. That was a fantastic post. Thank you for standing up for yourself and everyone else out there and thank you for reminding us to love our incredible, amazing bodies.

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  30. Jen, because of you I have been more creative and outgoing in what I wear every day.
    After cancer anything is possible and you are living proof of that.
    Keep up the good work and don’t let those moles dig up your gorgeous ” garden”.

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  31. You go girl. It always amazes me how people can be nasty and it disappoints me that females can be the most judgemental and cruel to their sisters. What is it with that? I always thought when I was in school that once I left school the jibes and teasing would stop. But it appears the bullies have stayed the same but just got older. You look beautiful. xxx

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  32. Well said Jenni, I couldn’t agree more. Perhaps those super critical people should just opt out if your blog. There are plenty of us who appreciate you and the boost you give us. I am even considering fillers now. Thank you for being you.

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  33. Dear Jen where does one start ( That sounds a bit posh ) I have like you grown up in the hairdressing business and have always been around all the latest trends in the beauty business some I have tried some not .I’ve watched women struggle with their looks and worry over the smallest things.
    I’m now close to 70 and still would try something if it suits me
    . I’ve had a weight problem all my life and been up and down many times I wish I could go back to my haters now and just put my finger up to them and walk away. I now know they are the ones that seem unhappy with what I have done. NOT ME so I will keep putting creams on and bleaching my hair putting make up on not so much as I get older but still wear it. I just started to put more effort into the eyebrows which after I won a brow kit from you is fun
    . Just make sure you keep up that lovely smile with your lovely lips .

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  36. So love ? these comments and so live you strength ! You go girlfriend ! So many women think they have the right to judge others they don’t ! Love it judges moles ! ?????

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  39. You tell em luv, you inspire me everyday to be better with everything you do, say and feel!
    I salute you gorgeous!!

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  42. Live every single day! Life is far too precious to even bother with negativity! You go girl! You inspire all of us!

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  43. I love reading your comments because it helps bring back perspective. I am really really struggling with my body at the moment. Am weighing my heaviest, hitting menopause and am scared of where it is all heading. I am hating the way I look, I scrutinize picture, I compare and contrast all the time. Then I read your comments and I realise I am healthy (I do exercise), my husband is amazing and my two boys incredible. So thank you for giving me perspective and thank you for your posts because I am starting to realise I can still look gorgeous and I don’t have to wear a hessian sack. So you know you do whatever that makes you happy and whole as a person, wife, mother, sister, daughter and friend.

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  44. Can’t believe the haters your body yiur jo ice you are are beautiful women who inspires all on a daily basis haters are obviously jealous of the beautiful person that you are just do what makes you happy in life

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  46. Ditto to all of the above comments!!! Block the haters & judgemental biatches & do what makes YOU feel good lovely lady ?

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  47. We Love you too Jenn., and we love the way you make us love ourselves. You are the reason I braved a swimsuit after 30 years and swam every day in the ocean with my kids and I didn’t give a hoot what anybody else thought. And I loved it.
    What can I say? People , move on and mind your own business.

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  49. Your choices are exactly that, YOURS.
    I think you look fab, always brightens a bad day reading what you’ve been up to. Keep being fabulous, xoxo

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  50. Wow Jen. I am mortified that you cop such shit. I too am a curvy girl. Struggling with a few things at the moment. A strained marriage, issues with myself (but I’m getting there). Everyday you give me a ‘lift’ with your photos, blog posts, honesty, realism, styling tips, and the odd ‘f’ bomb ?. Thank you for being you and putting a smile on our faces everyday xx

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  51. I don’t love my body unfortunately. Wish I did! But what YOU do to YOUR body is up to YOU and no one else! We should be building each other up and not judging!

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  52. The older I get, the less tolerant I become of judgemental people. It’s your body and therefore your decision what you do with it. I bet those people making nasty comments dye their hair and wear makeup to mask things they are not happy with. Both of which is unnatural and can be harmful depending on what you read.

    You do you Jen. I’ll do me and to everyone else who thinks they can sit in judgement of another person’s choices, stop being an arse.

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  53. Exactly just don’t be a mole is correct. It so pisses me off that people think they have the right to be judgemental. I have never smoked don’t drink eat good food and not knowingly have ever done anything to give me cancer but yes have had two cancers uterine and bowel. I am so sick of the shit that comes from the mouths of others . It’s a decease that picks at random it’s victims. How about we all stop abusing the victims who have to cope with this insidious decease and applaude the ones who go on fighting and living a great life. Who the hell has the right to judge what anyone does in my humble opinion stress is the killer so stop stressing and harassing each other we are all women good on you Jen you deserve all the good things life has to offer and you give so much back maybe theses nasty moles should do some charity work with their idle hours instead of trolling their wat through life. Live your guts Jen ????

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  54. Well said Jen, you do what makes you feel good, stuff the miserable cows that love to kick the boot in..
    I would love to have my lips done & seriously considering it next time I’m in Bali, I have seen some fantastic results from there.
    I’m 69 and never let a day go by without makeup on, hair done etc. I have my nails done, regular pedicures & facials , things I couldn’t afford when putting 4 kids through school. . Keep on being YOU Jen, you inspire us all … Bless ya xoxox

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  55. Geez that made me cry…people can just be mean spirited…tell them to bugger off! You’re an inspiration to many…always remember that Jen. Bless you.

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  56. I love as always that you choose to call out this behaviour Jen xx
    No matter how hard we try, the judgement just does not stop and these types of people just don’t realise how many lives they are hurting, those who are less resilient are deeply affected by the hurtful words of others!

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  57. All of these things you have endured and you still smile, you greet, you be you. You give your time, your energy and your love. So much love. You meet us in the street and you cuddle us and the energy passes through us. Thank you and Im sorry you also get the hate. Love you Jenni and all you give X

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  58. Why do people have the right to tell you or anyone else what to do?? It is your body and you can do with it what you like. Amazes me how people have time to hate negativity takes up too much energy. Maybe haters need to put their efforts into something else like loving more and empowering each other. You people in my mind are just crazies!

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  60. I can’t wait to see your lips!!! The fun you’ll have trying new lip sticks!!!
    I wish I had the money to do me up a little!!!! I’m in the process of losing some weight though…,17lbs!!! And I’ve dropped 2 sizes!

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  61. Ignore the molls they are not worth your time. I think you are an inspiration, keep the attitude it suits you and I’m guessing that’s one reason you have 20K Insta followers – you’re obviously doing something right. Stay tuff!!! PS love the new lips.

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  62. Sad sad Jeni, some people do not learn from life’s experiences. Thank goodness for you Jeni, as you are a shining bright light to some of us. Love and hugs x

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  65. Too right! I am where I am with & in my bod. OK. Chunkier than I might wish but every day I make the best of ME. & if others don’t like it – tough – I can’t live my life the way OTHER people expect/ want.
    So….you go,girl! Have fun & keep looking gorgeous & inspiring us. Xxxx

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  66. Nothing is more beautiful than a happy confident woman . Whatever or however we get this confidence it’s so important to take it . We are our own harshest critics and certainly don’t need another women criticising.us . We are meant to boost each other , have each other’s backs .
    We all know what it’s like to be a women with the multitude of insecurities, we have . When a wonderful person like yourself Jen shares her life with us we need to embrace the love .
    I’ve learned and continue to learn from you . You’ve helped me to love me ?
    Cmon girls if we don’t hold each other up, support each other and recognise we’re all different but individually beautiful., then that’s just sad ?
    We are all members of that exclusive club . Sisterhood . Embrace it ????

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  69. Hi, This makes me so cranky and sad. Cranky that some idiot feels they can bully or judge someone, someone they do not even know. If it is not you they are bitching about they would find someone else. I also feel sad for these idiots, they must have a very sad pathetic life themselves. Grow up you morons and leave good people alone. You look beautiful, but you also looked beautiful before you had your lips done. As long as you are happy with the result, who gives a toss what others think. Keep doing what you are doing. We all adore you.x

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  71. I have only just found you and boy what an impact you have had. Stick your middle finger up at them girl and do what you bloody well want to. Man I love your attitude.

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  72. Hi from Canada! I️ love your blog. You are so inspiring and funny. Negative people just take up space. Always be fabulous.

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  74. This. This is why I started following you and will continue to.
    You’re frank, open, honest and not a moll.
    You’re a cool chick Jen, and you’ve helped me come to terms with some of the stuff that prevents me from loving me.
    I hope you never change.

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  75. Good on you Jenni, its no one’s business to tell you what you can and can’t do with your own body! I think that “body positivity” means feeling positive about your own body, in any way you want to, and its YOUR body so its not THEIR business! It makes me mad too. Good on you for not letting them rule you, girl!!

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  76. You go girl, your definitely right! Keep up the good work, your down to earth, girl next door attitude is definetly something we can relate to and warm to. I’m thinking about getting my droopy saggy eyelids cut off because they make me feel old. Have a great day xx

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