I never thought I would have to write a post like this, but turns out I do. I’ll try to keep it short and not too ranty because UGH… my heart just feels heavy and I wanna go take a bath and wash this negativity away.
There was once a woman who was very, very sick and while she was sick she decided to make her life count. She decided to live her life with purpose and passion. When she was well again she started writing about styling and body confidence and this made her heart very, very happy and she knew instantly that this was her path. This woman is ME!
I love what I do. While I have turned my passion into my business, I like to think it still has purpose and heart. Part of that business is social media.
Now, apart from a few nasty comments my social media has been pretty free from drama. I have built a wonderful ‘community of women’. Women who are helpful, supportive and delightful, women who I actually care about.
Now when someone comes on my page and writes unsavoury remarks it’s a bit like walking into my home with shit on your shoe. It’s grubby, leaves a foul pong in the air, is unnecessary and is just plain bad manners.
I don’t need everyone to like or love everything I do, but I certainly expect good manners.
I see lots of stuff on the internet I don’t like, shitloads…but I don’t take the time to stop and write unsavoury remarks. Do you know why?
I put myself in the other persons shoes.
I don’t want people walking up to me in the street and cutting me down so I would never do it to others on the internet.
I can share my opinion or debate a topic without resorting to nastiness or mean girl behaviour and I expect the same in the Styling Curvy community.
Here’s the bottom line. If you don’t like something scroll past. If you really want to offer your opinion make it constructive and choose your words carefully because on the receiving end of your comment is an actual real person.
If you do like something and want to share that then feel free to click like or even leave a comment. I love that.
This is not about me being up myself or wanting only praise, it’s about manners and the tone of the community I have created. I want everyone to feel safe and supported in my community. If you can’t play nice then maybe my page isn’t for you, that’s ok.
My purpose is to share with you all more of what’s available in the world of fashion. I want to inspire you to live a vibrant life from the inside out. I want women to fall in love with their bodies and have confidence that sees them walking tall like the Queen that they are. Not every single outfit or post will be your cuppa tea, I don’t need it to be. I wear what I wear because it is me, it’s my personal style. I have my own style personality, some of you will really love it while others will be ‘inspired’ by it.
You might see a photo of me in white pants, maybe the ‘style’ that I’m wearing is not for you but my outfit photo might just ‘inspire’ you to wear a white pant that is authentic to your style personality…this would be a fist pump moment for me. See? Can you see how it works?
If someone is inspired to try white pants and for the first time ever gives them a go and feels great about themselves then this makes me happy.
BUT, if someone else then writes that they hate white pants and that no women should ever wear them, well can you imagine what that comment does to the Queen who just found her confidence in white pants? It’s deflating.
Let’s support a sista instead. If you don’t have anything nice to say then maybe it’s best not to say anything at all.
So, let’s all think twice before we write a comment, let’s check the tone of the comment and use our manners. I can tell you that I certainly didn’t feel good yesterday when people used unsavoury terms to describe my pants. “mens package, full Tena pad, hate, unflattering’…how do you reckon I felt?
The foul pong was strong.
Til next time,