Are you one of these people who says ‘I’m gonna do this’? Maybe there’s times when you start and somewhere along the line your will lags, your intentions fade and temptation lures you.
Uhuh, that’s me. Sure, there’s been many times when I’ve held steadfast and followed through but there’s also been loads of times that I’ve been a ‘gonna girl’.
It doesn’t make me ‘bad’ or a ‘failure’, far from it. In fact the ‘gonna girl’ sees the light, she knows that some things need to change…she just lacks the tools.
The first tool is setting intentions. Then you need to break it down and quantify your goal. If you’re making big changes they can feel overwhelming, so bloody overwhelming that it’s all too easy to give up before you start.
We’ve all been on the diet that starts on a Monday morning and we’ve totally fucked up by Monday afternoon…right around 3 pm, right?
We beat ourselves up and doom ourselves to a life of failure. We chastise ourselves for not even being able to commit to one single day.
BUT, did you quantify your goals? Did you make a plan? Set intentions? Break it down and enlist support?
Well, did you?
Maybe you thought you could just wing it? Buy a book or a bucketload of shakes and be like Mary Freakin Tyler Moore…’make it on your own’.
I’ve done that. Shit doesn’t work.
What I’ve also done is the opposite and had screaming success.
So here I go again. In a couple of months I’m off to Bali, my first ever overseas trip and it’s just the Mister and I. Start the car, run don’t walk…no kids YAY 🙂
I want to walk all day, shop, eat, swim for hours and fuck like its 1992. I’ve not been shy in talking about how my sex life has altered since breast cancer invaded my body. Read about it HERE and HERE.
Having your body carved up, drugs that make your vajayjay dry as a dessert and being forced into menopause, well… those things are a sure fire way to slap the sexiness outa any gal.
This is the holiday where I envision long languid lovemaking sessions without a toddler or teen in sight. Lazy sleep ins in the balmy tropical weather wearing barely anything…oh shit, sorry guys, that fantasy got away with me pretty quickly. Forgive me because, you know, lacking sex!
My point is I want to ‘feel better’, I want stamina (for shopping and sex) and I need to implement some small changes ‘right now’ to bring about that change I’m seeking.
So, I’m going sugar free for 6 weeks, I’ve done it before and I liked it , so I’m doing it again. I even ate my last sugar meal, thought hard about what I wanted and savoured it. Check it out, brioche with cream and bacon and roasted pear and all the YUM stuff. Find it HERE
See how I’ve set my why, my intention and quantified how I will feel? This all makes it easier to see the bigger picture in my mind and give me a better chance of following through.
Six weeks is nothing, in the past I’ve had a cold for longer than six weeks so I can sure as shit focus on my health for that long.
The reward will be a rootin tootin fabulous holiday. Then after six weeks I reckon I’ll choose to implement another health change like using essential oils or exercise or whatever.
I’m not gonna change overnight but small steps can create achievable positive change to my health.
What about you, are you a ‘gonna girl’? Are you thinking about implementing change!
Are you having more sex than me? (of course you are!)
ms-havachat says
February 22, 2016 at 7:16 pmSounds like a great plan 🙂
But I think if people are really honest about sex, we only THINK everyone else is having it more than us, but truth be known, depending on all sorts of things, my guess is people are doing it way less than we think
Menopause sux big time, Not only while you are going thru it, but after it’s finished too.
And an itchy vajajay has to be the worst itch EVER!
Have a fabulous time in Bali. Hope you have a great balance of indoor and outdoor activities.
x
Jenni says
February 22, 2016 at 7:19 pmHa ha, very true. I’m looking forward to our trip and to feeling better x
Donna Rideout says
February 22, 2016 at 8:04 pmYes menopause is crap, it causes all sorts of things to happen to our bodies and is without adding all your extra problems of dealing with cancer and problems associated with the surgeries, drugs etc. My sex life was nearly non existent for a few years due to fissures in the vajajay areas which made things really uncomfortable. But I have to tell you that I saw a new gynaecologist in November and my sex life is better than I can ever remember thanks to some hormone treatment. So that means one happy me and one husband who is over the moon. I now just have to try and stay focused on going to the gym at least 3 times a week and try to go walking on the beach alone, I put it off all the time as I find it very lonely walking alone. I have cut my sugar intake down considerably over the last few months and that has been hard as boy am I a sweet tooth.
I hope you manage to stay focused on your goals Jenni so you can get the sex happening again as I can tell you it is so worth it.
Jenni says
February 22, 2016 at 9:14 pmFabulous news Donna, those gynaecologists are magicians!
Sally says
February 22, 2016 at 8:56 pmI’m totally a gonna girl and really need to the support of others, as well as naming my goals to get them done. A couple of friends and I started an accountability group, we check in really regularly and state our intentions. That way we can keep an eye on each other and give a nudge when needed.
Your holiday is going to be fantastic, I hope you’ll be walking awkwardly towards the pool on many occasions!!
Jenni says
February 22, 2016 at 9:16 pmAn accountability group is fabulous 🙂 Let’s hop the pool is close by 🙂
Darlene says
February 22, 2016 at 9:26 pmI’m a Gonna Girl from
way back. I’ve done the diets, joined a gym, started Pilates, professed that I’ll cook healthy food only….blah blah. Last week I went to see a naturopath as I’ve been feeling totally shit! No energy, can’t sleep, eating crappy food, drinking diet soft drinks, my arthritis has been at an all time shitty pain level, sex has been so far off my radar I’m sure my husband sometimes thinks we’re roommates. You see I’m addicted to sugar…and for me it’s been harder to give up than cocaine. I’ve never tried cocaine but I’m sure it must be the same. Anyway the naturopath did some tests and my body is acidic, when I filled in the questionnaire j thought. Holy Shit is this broken down woman me ad just 51 years young. So this Gonna Girl is a Did It Girl. I am now eating no sugar, no dairy, no breads, grains or processed foods and no red meat (I never ate much red meat anyway). I’m drinking only water and I feel fantastic! The first 4 days were horrible I actually thought I might die on the second day. Headaches, nausea, diahorea, shaking poor concentration and so bloody tired! But I did it and I’m
Going to continue doing it until I get my energy back, until I want to jump my husbands bones again, until I can chase my grandbabies around the yard. It’s not about losing weight for me I’m a size 20-22, but if I lose a few kilos that’s ok. It’s about being ME again and enjoying every minute of every day. That will include eating dessert and having a coffee when I’m in a much healthier place in both mind and body. I love love love your page Jeni your a Goddess.
Jenni says
February 22, 2016 at 11:07 pmGood for you Darlene! Sugar can be so toxic and inflaming. I went sugar free a few years ago (right before I was diagnosed), it was the best I’ve ever felt. I’m looking forward to feeling better and clearer. ?
Von says
February 22, 2016 at 10:25 pmJen you make me laugh, make me think, make me nod my head in agreement and make me feel inspired. Tonight was no different.
I’m currently going through medically induced menopause….oh what absolute joy joy…NOT! I sway within minutes from wiping the continual beads of sweat off my forehead and my upper lip…not to mention the river of babylon pours from the nape of my neck alllll the way down my spine. Only to have cooled down sufficiently, that my husband and my girls have a slight blue tinge around their lips thanks to me for having the aircon on high. I’m sure they think I have lost the plot!
Like you and your beloved, my husband and I are going on our first holiday together, WITHOUT THE KIDS!!!? It’s been 22 yrs since we last did that and all those years ago I didn’t have a back injury, or walk with a cane. I may be 45 yrs young, but I feel so old. In the 10 yrs since my life changed dramatically, I have put on 30kgs and I’m 5ft and a 1/2 inch. That is quite a whack of weight and of course it doesn’t do my back any favours to be overweight. Before we go away in July, I would be over the moon if I could lose some weight and be stronger on my feet. If I could wear lingerie and feel sexy in it, then our cruise might be the most fun we have had in years, as a couple?.
I’ve decided that I am going to take low carb protein shakes for the next 2 weeks. I have done it before and although hard in the beginning, once I got past withdrawls from sugar etc, I will return to being pleasant…lol but I would be rapt to start feeling the weight drop off too.
So I look forward to reading about your initial 6 weeks without sugar. I hope you won’t mind me sharing my journey, with you too. ?
Jenni says
February 22, 2016 at 11:08 pmOh Von, we are twinning! Both looking forward to holidays, a root and better health ??? here’s to feeling better. X
Sammie @ The Annoyed Thyroid says
February 23, 2016 at 4:45 pmYou go girl! Goodbye sugar, hello hot Bali nights (in every sense of the word.) I get on the wagon and more often than not fall off but I always get back on! You definitely have an incentive – keep your eyes on the prize, baby!
Jenni says
February 26, 2016 at 7:46 amWe can all fall but it’s about not giving up and having another crack. Bring on Bali baby 🙂
Shan@FortyUp says
March 1, 2016 at 3:46 pmI list, & I list & I list some more. It’s the only way I get anything done! Sometimes those lists never seem to end though! But I do check a lot of things off along the way – & that’s the goal!
I’m so amped for your Bali trip, I hope you love it like I do! Have you downloaded the Little Miss Bali app – & follow her on Facebook – she’s a classy chick who’ll point you in the right direction xx