How often do we place our self-worth on the size label that’s sewn inside our clothing? Too bloody often! And just while I’m writing that sentence my mind is stuck on ‘inside our clothing”…these labels are hidden and not even ‘on show’ yet we still let that number mess with our self-worth and self-esteem.
I’m going to let you in on a little secret, brands and clothing labels all have a very different idea of a ‘standard’ sizing guide. Go on, check your wardrobe now and I can bet you will have several sizes hanging in your wardrobe. It’s cruel right?
Just as we aren’t all made the same our clothes aren’t either so placing value in being a particular size is senseless and futile.
Let’s stop personalising the number inside our clothing, it will go a long way to gaining back some of the power we give away each time we beat ourselves up because we aren’t the ‘fairytale’ size. Every time we self-criticize we are perpetuating self-doubt, compounding anxiety and negative feelings about ourselves and our bodies.
Remember your body is listening to those negative thoughts…and feeling them.
Stop putting your life on hold while you put off buying clothing until you lose weight. Why would you want to live one single day wearing clothes that don’t make you feel great? Why aren’t you dressing for your life today, who you are today? You know you deserve that right?
Buy what fits you AND feels great! You don’t need to invest squillions of dollars into clothes if you absolutely are planning to lose weight but for goodness sake, respect yourself enough today to dress well, I can assure you, you’ll feel better for it.
If you really think your size and shape will change and you’re conscious of budget then buy clothes in fabrics that will move with your size. Look for pieces you can tie, tuck, belt and knot to create a different silhouette and then you’ll get better value from your clothes.
As you lose weight buy some pieces to fit your new size, celebrate your hard work. Wearing clothes to fit your body helps you to accept and celebrate your size.
If you’ve been staying away from certain stores because you believe they will have nothing to fit you, I urge you to rethink your shopping strategy. You might be pleasantly surprised by what you find in these stores.
Own the size you actually are and shop accordingly, if that means dipping your toe into a ‘plus size’ store, there is no shame in that. Wearing ill-fitting clothing that looks and feels like it shrunk in the wash will make you feel far worse than going up a size…because we all know now that the sizes vary from store to store anyway right?
Our happiness is an inside job, inside us. The label inside our clothes just shouldn’t factor in this equation so please stop placing so much importance on the label.
Do you hold off buying clothes because you hope to lose weight? What about the label…does the number stress you out?