Sometimes I get tired. Worn out. Flat. Fatigued. Fagged. Just. Plain. Knackered. You see I run a small business, there’s no big staff, no personal assistant and no business coach. It’s just me. Some days the dog sits at my feet for company and other days I can rope a son or the huz into taking a photo, but for the most part my small business is run by me.
I’m not a ‘mumpreneur’ or an ‘entrepreneur’, please don’t call me an ‘influencer’ oh, and you will never see CEO in front of my name (ever). Soooo wanky!
I’m a woman whose life changed when disease entered my body. I realised my body and my fuzzy brain just couldn’t do what it used to and to be honest my perspective on life also changed. I didn’t want to train staff, juggle rosters and make budgets for big business anymore.
Instead I wanted to have a job that felt like it integrated with the other important things in my daily life, like health, family, friends, health, exercise, travel and did I mention health?
Yeah that pesky cancer and all the related side effects and treatments take its toll and I really need to be aware of my limitations and in tune with what my body is telling me.
I pretty much stumbled into blogging and this online business that I love, crazy I know. But here I am three years on and I really do love it. Having my own small business is no walk in the park, some people throw one liners at me like ‘you’re so lucky’ or ‘you’ve got it so easy’ and I’m here to tell you neither of those are true.
Sure, I fell into blogging but I’m like a duck on a pond with those feet paddling like crazy under the water! I had so much to learn, in fact I’m still learning new things every single day. Its not all pretty pictures, coffee pics and free dresses. By the way, NOTHING is ever free.
There’s tech stuff to learn… so much tech stuff. There’s photography, content creation, emails, messages, closed groups, invoicing, bookwork, campaigns, collaborations, travel, meetings, research and much, much, more. Then there’s personal clients, photo shoots, public speaking, volunteer roles, workshops and freelance writing.
Phew, sometimes a nine to five job has appeal.
Most days I ride the wave of momentum, tearing through the jobs on my list and doing ALL the things. But sometimes, I feel the overwhelm creeping in. I’m acutely aware of what the overwhelm feels like because just over five years ago I had a full blown nervous breakdown. The kind that required some medication, quitting my job and learning meditation. It was a pretty fucked up time but little did I know that just a few months later the really fucked up part of my life was waiting. Cancer.
Look, my life is good, I consider myself #blessed, I really am living a wonderful life but I just want you all to know that not every day of my life is picture perfect. As someone who shares so much of my life online I believe in keeping it real. So that’s why yesterday I opened up and shared that what I really needed was some time out. I needed to not be anything to anybody.
And because you guys are a freaking rad bunch you all totally got it and applauded my choice. Some of you took your own day off (time out) while others of you checked your own inner-compass and realised you were spinning a little outa control too. It happens… to all of us.
So, what can we do when it does happen?
-ask for help.
–take some time off.
–shorten your work hours.
–be honest with yourself and those around you.
–seek the advice of a professional
–restructure your working week.
–delegate. This might even mean hiring someone to help.
We can also restore some balance and work life integration by doing more of the stuff that makes us (and those around us) happy. Stuff like
-catching up with friends.
-sitting in the sun.
-getting back to nature.
–going screen free.
–enjoy a favourite hobby or start one you’ve always wanted to try.
–make time for cooking and spending time in and on the home.
–pamper your body.
–volunteer…it feels good.
–travel, even if its just a day trip or weekend away.
So yesterday after a three-hour email drama (technology sucks sometimes) I took a time out. I walked the dog, washed the sheets, took some photos, walked on the beach, had a coffee, posted some long overdue mail, visited the bakery, had a little nap on the lounge (with the dog) and made a plan.
Yeah, a plan. You see sometimes I’m so busy trying to fit everything in that what I really need is some order. So, from now on I will be doing certain work jobs on particular days. Like responding to non-urgent messages and emails on Thursdays, doing research on Fridays, writing content on Tuesdays and taking Wednesdays off. Yes OFF!
Sure, I’ll post a photo on social media but all the rest of the stuff that makes my business tick can wait. Wednesdays are for me, for balance and fun and joy and ALL the stuff that will help keep me sane and centred. It feels good to have a plan.
Know what else feels good? Pampering yourself. Because I’m full of happy beans I’m going to treat one of you to a pamper pack of your own. I have one pretty awesome gift box from Urban Rituelle to give away. This gift pack has luxury hand-wash, body lotion plus soap and a soy candle all in uplifting lemongrass. There’s no nasties like parabens, artificial colours Sulfates or fragrance, instead these Australian made products are made with certified organic ingredients, essential oils and botanical extracts to nourish and revitalise your body. Sounds dreamy right? Want in?
All you need to do is tell me your best tip for looking after yourself when things get a little unbalanced in life. The beauty of this gorgeous Styling Curvy community is sharing is caring. Your sharing and tips will help someone else, you could even change someone’s life.
Ok, leave your tip in the comments below and I’ll announce the pamper pack winner on Friday 30th on Friday live@5. Thanks for being so damn nice and look after YOU, take a time out if you need it.
Til next time,
Giveaway commences Friday 23rd June and winner announced Friday 30th June. Open to Australian residents aged18+ Gift pack valued at $114.85 kindly given by the rad team at Urban Rituelle. Gift is not transferrable for cash. By entering you agree that winners name will be published on the blog and on Styling Curvy Facebook page.