Did you ever have a glory box? A box filled with household items collected over the years to help when moving out of home. Items gifted by well-meaning aunties and practical Nana’s stashed full of dinner sets, towels and crystal glasses collected on sale. Yeah, me neither. I wanted one, envied my mates who had one and dreamed about what I might include in mine for when I
ran away from moved out of home. Instead I winged it and when I did leave home at the age of seventeen I had a papasan chair and not much else. Priorities in check! These days I have a grown up lounge but secretly long for a papasan chair.
I had to collect items that I never knew I needed like a hot water bottle, ceramic balls for baking pastry and those net covers for platters to keep the flies off when entertaining.
My point is what the heck do we even need when moving out of home???
Well the number one son moved out of home and to Melbourne last year, when he moved interstate he did it on his own…all of it. Thankfully he was moving in with mates who were established so didn’t really need to think of too much. He did however have more than a papasan chair! Raised him right!
When moving out of home gets real.
Fast forward six months, a move back into home with us for a few weeks and this week moved out of home… again. He and a mate are starting from scratch, so I figured I would get my ‘Mum’ on and give him a hand. Oh sure, he groaned and eye-rolled hard when he saw my baskets of goods but the next morning he gave me a big hug because he hadn’t even thought of any of the items I picked up from him.
Look, I didn’t go all out, just a quick trip to Kmart and Coles for some essentials. I didn’t spend a lot of cash, didn’t even buy the fancy brands. I thought about it, even reached for my favourite (and more expensive) brands but reminded myself of a couple of things.
- He’s a boy, he doesn’t care
- Let him work out what cleaners and tissues are shit and allow him to decide if he wants to spend his earned dollars on upgrading to a higher quality product. Pretty sure he will revert back to point one.
The exercise was more about purchasing some essentials that he may not realise are essential, and when they are used up and gone he will know to replace them. I know, I’m an ace and caring Mum!
So exactly what did I purchase? I filled one washing basket For clean washing) and one large laundry basket (for dirty clothes) with these items, handy for transporting to the new joint PLUS useful.
Here’s what I picked up at Kmart, so cheap but does the job.
.round peg hanger
.dustpan and brush, no broom, I figure he can sweep floor with dustpan brush for a while, which might mean forever.
.pack of teatowels
.quality storage containers (for pantry or fridge)
.cheap containers for leftovers
.silicone utensils (on sale at spotlight)
This whole lot came to around seventy dollars including baskets.
Then it was off to Coles for a few things…
.Toilet paper, I figure this pack might last him two days (he will soon learn how much he ‘really’ uses), on sale too!
.dishwashing liquid, no the new place does not have a dishwasher.
.febreeze because boys stink
.alfoil, cling wrap and baking paper
.liquid soap hand-wash for bathroom and kitchen sinks
.body soap wash so he doesn’t use the hand-wash for the kitchen and bathroom sinks in the shower
.paper towel for spills
.air freshener…because boys stink
.bench cleaner spray and shower cleaner spray
.cotton and needles for mending
a grand total of $66.40
I will disclose that I also took a trip to IKEA yesterday and added a little to the list…
.A couple of sharp knives for the kitchen
.towels/hand-towel/floor mat/face washer
.small bin for bathroom
.front door mat
.a glass bottle for water to pop into the fridge
.those plastic clip thingys for sealing off half eaten bags of food.
What about the bigger stuff when moving out of home?
The boys went out on the weekend to SAVERS and picked up a lounge for the grand total of seven dollars!!! It’s a bit icky, but they are boys and plan to collect a few cheap arse lounges and move the crappier ones to the shed or backyard. They also purchased crockery, cutlery and a few other useful pieces like a beer stein bigger than his head!
Kids moving out means we can get rid of some
shit pieces we no longer use and save a few dollars on a skip bin. We have a TV unit, a wardrobe, mattress, shelving unit, lamps, dining chairs and assorted other bits and pieces to give them, no boomerang on these items though as we want them gone…forever!
Don’t forget stores like IKEA, Fantastic Furniture, Kmart and AMART, some of these places do ridiculously cheap bundle packages on new household items. For white goods and small electrical items look first at outlet stores, Harvey Norman has a good one…then hit up Kmart and The Good Guys.
What does he need now?
Well firstly he needs to listen to his Mumma and get the utilities connected, he still hasn’t done the gas and they moved yesterday so it’s cold showers for now. Then he is on the hunt for a second hand fridge, dining table and washing machine, I have told him sometimes it pays to purchase new and to buy a ‘new washer’ as they really aren’t that expensive and he can save dollars when the water bill comes in. Pretty sure he will be back to wash clothes at our place for a while.
I’m not really sure what else he needs and do you know what…I don’t really care. I say that with love, because he will be twenty three in a few weeks and in my books this is all part of the experience. He is learning, living it and he will be fine. In fact, because I raised him I know he will be more than fine. He will go on to purchase some fancier items when funds permit, inclination strikes or a girlfriend comes on the scene.
Mumming never ends
He will look back on his seven dollar lounge with fond memories (and a sense of pride) the same way I remember my papasan chair. In time he will appreciate new or more expensive things more because he didn’t start off with everything shiny and brand new. He will have a sense of accomplishment, which we all know makes us feel proud and value life and all it brings just that little bit more.
For a minute I did want to give him an IKEA voucher or a wad of cash to make this next step of his life easier, but then I realised that not only would he NOT want that but I would be robbing him of a righteous experience, a path we all need to walk to feel greater appreciation.
And that right there is a great Mumming moment and lesson.
I wonder if I will get an invite for dinner or scones on a Sunday afternoon? One thing I do know is both our boys can cook so while I may avoid the seven dollar lounge I will eat the food they offer me 🙂
What did your place look like when you first moved out of home? Got any tips for kids or parents navigating this next step in life?
Til next time,